"Girl, faster find boyfriend lo, later you expire already, no one wants you already."

"Reality is like that one, after 30 you are out from the market."

"All my friends getting married and having kids already, what am I doing with my life?"

"Still don't get married ah? Later too old to have baby already."

How many of you are familiar with these lines? I think we pretty much grew up in a society that tells you the perfect age to get married, to have kids or else, you are doomed. As scary as it sounds, how many of us are constantly doubting ourselves, fearing to age? 

I was. 

I once had a conversation with this aussie lady, she was about 34 and I was like 23? I was telling her my birthday is coming and I didn't want to celebrate my birthday anymore after 25 because it's so embarrassing. She told me that it's funny how when she was younger, she felt the same way too but surprisingly stepping into her 30s is the best thing that has ever happened to her. 

She told me when she was 21, she had so much fun, she didn't really know what was going on with her life but she just had so much fun. Everything is so vivid, you thought you know what you're doing, but in another second, you lose track of what you're doing? ( you get what i mean?) When she turned 30 few years ago, she realised that she's settled with a job that she really enjoys, she has a clear mind on what she wants in life and found what she believes in which explains why she thinks that turning 30 isn't as bad as it seems.

It kinda make sense, but back then, in my heart was like, 

"wah angmoh really thinks differently.
I literally told her that in Asia, you're most likely off the market after you turn 30. Now, I really wish to take those words back. It's so embarrassing, but I'm also glad to finally understand what she meant now.

It's funny that we grow up in a society telling us girls to find a boyfriend at certain age, so we don't get expired. Telling us how getting married is so important, constantly getting questions about boyfriends, marriage or kids, but how many of them actually ask you, HAVE YOU FOUND YOURSELF?

How many of us neglected this? I think this question is wayyyyyyy more important to us.  I've seen girls helping their friends to get a boyfriend but not many are open to talk about finding themselves. Why is it so terrifying for women to have big dreams? Or is it that bad for girls to have strong opinions? Because most men find it intimidating? Or most men don't like their partners to be too "strong", or what they called it "hard to be tamed". I don't blame them or judge them, I always believe that the world is going to treat you as how you see it through. A man who truly loves you will listen, will respect what you stand for and supports you. ( vice versa. )  Stopping you for voicing your opinions, or slamming your ideas without listening to you, girl, that man does not know how to respect you. 

First thing first, find yourself.

It's never too late to find yourself, no matter you're 20, 30 or 40. You are never going to be expired or feel like one. Always speak for yourself, because if you don't, no one is going to listen or understand where you are coming from. 
Don't force yourself to accept things that don't make you feel good, because your feelings are as important as everyone else. 
Always have opinions, yet respect that people have different opinions. 
Even greater, force yourself to look from different perspectives, and you will find what works for you and what doesn't. Learn what works and walk away from what doesn't.
Embrace what life throws at you.

Can't believe I'm saying this, but aging suddenly doesn't sound that terrifying.
Because I know, I will never be expire, so do you.
I hope reading this helps you too. 

Ending this with what inspires me to write this.
A really well produce ad from SKII, please watch :